You know what I like about the calendar? It gives us blocks of time where we can decidedly reset our goals. There are many opportunities, you just need to take one. April 1st is the beginning of the 2nd Quarter of 2019. You may have read that statement and immediately panicked. That’s ok. Take a deep breath!
It’s time to take a minute and evaluate where we are with our goals. I know for me, the biggest obstacle I create for myself is Perfection Paralysis. Perfection Paralysis is when you are so focused on getting it right, or perfect, that you never start. Any hands raised out there? Yeah. The solution? The only one I’ve found is to push through and use the mantra that Hannah Keeley teaches in Mom Mastery University, “Sloppy Success beats perfect failure”. I’ve even literally chanted this to myself over and over again to get myself to just START!
So, coming into April-I think it’s a good time to revisit the goals I set at the beginning of the year.
Remember, I use a word for the year to guide me. This is a word that I spent the last quarter of the previous year praying about, and I wait for the Lord to reveal to me what He wants my word to be. It serves as a sort of guide post, or plumb line for the year. My goal through this is to live my life in obedience, in line with His will for my life. If you’ve never done this, don’t worry about waiting until 2020, that’s another form of perfection paralysis! Ask the Lord to give you a word now, for 2019. It’s never too late to start!
My word for 2019 is Propel. I took that word and broke it down into the different areas of focus from Mom Mastery University to give myself some framework.
Health: Propel my body to a healthy weight with a stable blood sugar and a lifestyle of a Trim Healthy Mama.
I’m doing good here, tweaking the plan to fit my lifestyle, and even starting to coach others professionally! In fact, in the Sisterhood, I’m doing a flyover of the Trim Healthy Plan for those who want to know what this is all about! Join the fun, and help us celebrate your success with our hashtag: #MamaNeedsAMoonshine
Marriage: Propel my marriage to a more seamless connection, where there is less frustration when we are apart.
Marriage is a constant work. I was just talking to my oldest daughter about this. You can not be in relationship with anyone for any period of time without difficulty. We are not necessarily in a difficult place, but we are still working on a good rhythm of spending time alone together. This has proved to be very difficult this year, and will be a main area of focus for me coming into Q2.
Parenting: Propel my kids into independence through dependency on God, not me.
This one has been tough too. My oldest daughter is graduating in 6 weeks and I’m feeling the pressure. We’ve been visiting colleges and I think she’s pinned down where she wants to go next year, which is good. Dependency on God, not me is the key here, and one of the most challenging parts of this goal. A couple of my children is really struggling in this area, and it’s an area of focused prayer for me. As mamas, we have so much pressure on us. One of those is the goal to be perfect (even we don’t realize it). That’s actually a form of pride, or lack of faith when you break it down deep. I’ve developed another mantra that helps me, and if you’ve read or watched me, you’ve heard it: “Perfect is never the goal, forgiven is.” It’s my goal to point my children to God’s redeeming grace when I fall short. It doesn’t take me long to find an example for this! Like last night- my youngest kids were bickering all day long, and by the evening my patience was done. I ended up getting angry with them all and sending them to bed. Now, as I am up writing in the middle of the night, I wish I had responded differently. I plan to talk to them in the morning about how none of us is perfect, but we have a perfect savior.
Home Management: Propel my home into clean and working order; a place that calls people to linger together.
Is a home ever not a work in progress? My goals for this quarter include figuring out where everyone who comes to visit from out of town for the graduation will sleep, and continuing to work on teaching my kids to tie a bow on their responsibilities around the house.
Finances: Propel my finances to biblical standards- no debt, consistent tithe, money in savings, God-directed spending.
Ok, I’ve started a new way of reining in my spending and I really like it. It’s an envelope budgeting system, but not like you have probably seen before. These envelopes don’t have the cash, but hold the information. I highly recommend you watch this video by Jordan Page, where she describes it!
Emotions: Propel my emotions to a more stable place, based in gratitude and faith.
Some days are better than others. I have really learned over time that I need to guard myself against exhaustion and overwhelm. (Which I obviously need to work on, since I’m writing this blog post at 4 in the morning, and have been up since 2am)
Time Management: Propel my time into intentional blocks of time, that are well balanced according to my needs.
This is an area that I’m still working on the details, and with school ending in 6 weeks, it will need a major overhaul mid quarter.
Homeschooling: Propel our homeschool to a place of relationship first, and one that fosters a life-long love of learning.
I think I can do an entire post on it’s own on this, but for now, I’ll start with this- this will be much easier next school year. Right now, the goal is to get through this year and finish what we started. Again, 6 weeks to go. For next year, we will be doing something completely different, and I’ll circle back to this in the coming weeks and talk more on it!
Faith (this is a blanket category in MMU, but I wanted to be intentional here too): Propel my faith to the forefront of my being each day, that without question, each day is bathed in faith, begun with faith, ended with faith, and no decision is made absent of faith.
I’ve gotten back into scripture writing, and this is helping me keep my focus. I’m interested in what y’all are doing to keep your focus on Kingdom principles. Another thing I do, but not regularly enough, is I listen to Tony Evan’s podcast. For Q2, this can use some focus 🙂
Well, that’s where I’m starting from heading into Q2. What things are you needing to tweak?
Remember, perfect is never the goal, forgiven is.